Illiteracy At Its Peak: "How Can You Ejaculate Into A Rubber? There Is No Pleasure In That"- Head Of Makoko Community Defends High Rate Of Pregnancies

The rate of teenage pregnancies in Makoko is still one of the major problems facing the predominantly riverine community, writes Punch.

Since their forefathers migrated from neighbouring Francophone West African countries like Togo and Benin Republic, as well as from Badagry, Lagos, most of the children in the community neither speak nor understand English.

They speak their local Egun dialect and sometimes French.

Findings show that many young girls in Makoko still find themselves drowning in the waters of premarital sex.

On a rainy day in October 2012, 21-year-old Leah Ahonsu, fell into a deep slumber she would have wished she did not wake up from.
After a hectic day at the market, she returned home with her son, Clement, for a well-deserved rest on the mat she had laid on the floor of their wooden house built on water. While she was still fast asleep, Clement woke up, crying. Probably he was hungry. But, she didn't hear him.

When she eventually woke up, she could not find her baby boy by her side.
Ahonsu had thought one of his uncles had come to pick him up. She later realised this was not the case.

A search party was subsequently raised to unravel the mystery surrounding the boy's disappearance.
Unknowingly to her, Clement had fallen into the murky waters a few feet below them. There was no way he could swim. He was seven-month-old.

His corpse was found 30 minutes later by an inconsolable group and a distraught mother when they looked through a hole on the wooden floor. All efforts to revive him failed.
The little boy had drowned in the water underneath his parent's house in Makoko, Yaba Local Council Development Area, Lagos.

"Earlier, my mother had called me to ask if I heard my baby cry, and I had replied, 'yes,' but I said that unconsciously from my sleep," she recollected, with obvious pain.
The hole has since been covered up, but the one inside her heart still remains.

"He's gone and there is nothing I can do about that, I cannot follow him to the grave. I have not yet recovered from the loss, he was my only child," she told SUNDAY PUNCH.

A resident, who did not want to be named, also spoke of a similar incident which happened four years ago, where his relative lost her two-year-old son who fell into the water and drowned while playing with his peers. His mother had gone to the market.

Since their forefathers migrated from neighbouring Francophone West African countries like Togo and Benin Republic, as well as from Badagry, Lagos, most of the children in the community neither speak nor understand English. They speak their local Egun dialect and sometimes French.
Findings show that many young girls in Makoko still find themselves drowning in the waters of premarital sex.

For example, 19-year-old Suzanna Hunsene, never had proper schooling and does not know how to speak English. She had her first child at 16, but now she said her 23-year-old husband, who works as a carpenter fixing tiles in houses in the city, wants a divorce. 
"He doesn't love me anymore but I am also ready to divorce him," she said, and mentioned her 15-year-old friend who was not married but already has a one-year-old child.

She isn't aware of the issues surrounding teenage pregnancy, but told our correspondent that she just wanted to get on with her life. "I wished I went to school. But now I want to learn tailoring to help me and my son and to take care of his future," she told SUNDAY PUNCH.

She wants her three-year-old son, Ayomide, who is nicknamed 'Baddo', like popular Nigerian artiste Olamide, to become a lawyer in future. "We are suffering here in Makoko. But if he becomes a lawyer, he will be able to defend us against any planned demolition," she said.

Over a year ago, the Lagos State Government had demolished some houses in Makoko, which it said constituted an environmental nuisance, security risk and a barrier to the economic use of the waterfront.

Nineteen -year-old Owolabi Hungbo, still unmarried, had her first child when she was 18. She also expressed regrets for not acquiring an education, pointing out that the lack of education and not listening to the advice of their parents and elders were major impediments to the development of young girls in her community.
"We need to have more schools here and the government can help provide vocational training centres for girls to learn a trade so that they will have something that can earn them a living and keep them busy. Many young girls are idle," she said. 

Twenty-year-old Hannah Hunge, who, like Hungbo, also had her first child at 18, dropped out of school in Senior Secondary School because of her pregnancy.
"I told my parents about it when I discovered I was pregnant and decided to stop schooling. If I have another opportunity, I still want to become a medical doctor. Young girls should go to school or learn a trade," she said.

Like Hunsene, Hungbo and Hunge, the dreams of many young girls in Makoko have been cut short by teenage pregnancy, bringing another life into the world they never planned adequately for.

"Although I can't say if the rate of teenage pregnancy is rising in this community, but one thing I know is that we feel ashamed of ourselves whenever we see each other, it's not a good thing getting pregnant at a young age; you don't feel good inside," Hunge said.

She added that teenage pregnancy is not only common in Makoko, but worldwide also. "I also think we have more women and children in this community," she said, after verifying from an elderly male.

However, the head of the traditional chiefs in the area, 55-year-old Mr. Francis Agoyon Alashe, said the rate of teenage pregnancies in the community was nothing to worry about.
Why should we be worried? We take it as the wondrous and marvellous deed of God, that young girls at 11 or 12-year-old are getting pregnant and giving birth and that a 15-year-old boy can get a girl pregnant. In my days, we were taught that 18 was the ideal age, but times have changed. 

Agoyon has 14 children — 10 boys and four girls. He said, laughing:
My first daughter, who is now 29-year-old, got pregnant at 15; the second, who is now 19-year-old, got pregnant at 16. My boys have not impregnated any girl because they are focused on their education.

Sometimes, Egun people don't like using condoms. Our argument is, how can you ejaculate into a rubber? There is no pleasure in that. Although common sense says the use of condom could prevent pregnancy, but we don't need it. We like real sex, even if we give birth to many children, we don't mind. If, for example, I get married to a 15-year-old girl, it means I will now become a younger looking man,"
Nevertheless, Agoyon advised young men in the community not to pressure their girls into sexual relationships at a young age.
"The girls should also tell the boys they don't want it. The girl should tell him that she wants to finish her schooling first, because if something happens and she gets pregnant, the girl has herself to blame. We, the parents, also have roles to play in advising them 
This could be why one of the young men, who pleaded anonymity, noted that young people in the community did not have role models to look up to.
Sometimes too, the young men do not take responsibility for their actions, because they are the ones who sometimes trick some of these girls into having sexual relationships. We also need more vocational training centres in this place to keep young people busy and give them other means of livelihood,"

Culled from Punch Newspapers


*No wonder house girls are usually from there*